Most of us enter marriage believing we have finally arrived. This person completes me. This person makes me happy. It sounds romantic — but listen carefully to the logic. Marriage becomes the destination, the reward, the place where our needs finally get met. The spouse becomes a resource for our fulfilment. When the resource runs low — when the romance fades, when the irritations accumulate, when the gap between expectation and reality widens — marriage begins to feel like a disappointment.